Grief; Loss and Pain.

From LOSS to PAIN & HOPE – Lessons from the Kigali Genocide Memorial

From LOSS to PAIN & HOPE – Lessons from the Kigali Genocide Memorial

Yesterday the 14th of December, I visited the Genocide Memorial Center in Kigali with two of our associate coaches from the Olusola Lanre Coaching Academy (OLCA), Kolade and Emeka.  In preparing my mind for the visit (NOTHING in this world prepared me for what I was about to see and hear), I started by asking: How and why do terribly…

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Oscar Pistorius, the embattled South African sprint runner and Olympic athlete who has been involved in what can be termed the world’s most televised trial of the 21st century, appeared at North Gauteng High Court this morning after a three-and-a-half year legal battle. Oscar Pistorius repeatedly shot his 29-year-old model girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp, after she barricaded herself in the bathroom of his home in Pretoria on February 2013.

Oscar is a broken man and he needs help. Evidence over the last one year revealed that Oscar has lived with Anxiety and Fear attacks for several years. The court came to a shocking realization that there were two Oscars “Pistoriuses”. More info

MIND THE GAP X : Living Beyond Your Past

Owing to things happening in various relationships and consequently our society today, I have gotten several calls and messages just to say how timely the Mind The Gap X Wisdom Nugget series and the Mind The Gap X program are. One can only hope that lives are touched, questions are answered and marriages are healed from these messages.

Today, I want us to talk about being able to live beyond your past experiences. Yes, you had a bad time, you made some bad decisions but guess what, that is why it is called THE PAST… It has passed. The fact that your past experiences in your relationship and marriage are negative does not mean that there is no hope. Now it is not so easy to “snap out of it”, but you have to move on or risk staying the same way you have always been.  More info

MIND THE GAP X: Divorce or Death?

Here is another traumatic story from our Mind the GAP X Series. The story of Akolade Arowolo is one of the well-known stories in Nigeria.  He was a former Youth Pastor who killed his wife in 2011, and is now serving a death sentence in Prison in Nigeria.

His wife had complained regularly to everyone that she was being abused daily, said she wanted to leave but her parents and counselors kept telling her to go back because what would people say and God hated divorce. More info