COACHING SOCIAL MEDIA WEEK: Attaining Sexual Satisfaction Without Intercourse

Written By: The Catalyst, Lanre Olusola 

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Close your eyes and imagine yourself experiencing Extreme Pleasure and Satisfaction
How long did it take before your mind took you to sex?
Hmmmmmm !!!!

Sex, Sexual Intimacy and Sexual Satisfaction are Real and Genuine needs that we all have. Did you know that on the marslow’s hierarchy of needs, Sex is one of the two needs that comes up twice …. Indicating how serious a need Sex is. Did you also know that having regular sex in a safe and secure relationship like marriage with one partner has immense medical benefits?

Great Sex and Sexual Satisfaction can help boost your immune system, your fertility, it can help you sleep better, help your skin look younger, help you overcome high blood pressure and high cholesterol; It can even help you extend your lifespan. Great Sex and Sexual Satisfaction has been known to help decrease depression and enhance happiness especially with a loved one
But how Great or how Satisfied are you with the sex you’re having, and how can you increase your Sexual Satisfaction; Hence your Wellbeing? The average married couple, have sex about 50 times in a year, which works out to once a week. A few have sex more times than this, but many less.

During sex 75% – 95% of men report that they always have an orgasm as part of their sexual experience. On the other hand, only about 20% – 30% of women can say that they have an orgasm and about 50% of women admit to faking an orgasm. From this we can conclude that many are Unsatisfied with their Sex life, a BIG reason for the recent frequency of divorces, separation and infidelity.

Since women are the most dissatisfied, I will like to address Sexual Satisfaction for Women outside of Intercourse. First is to understand what Sexual Satisfaction means to women.

“Women have a broad definition of Sex, so this doesn’t necessarily mean they want more intercourse; A woman might just want to feel more Sexual in general”
– Scott Haltzman, M.D

Men, here are some Quick Tips for you to get it; Because many men don’t 

Let your wife or spouse know that you’re thinking about her throughout the day. Send her sexy messages all day, don’t wait till you get home into the room, take your clothes off before you get her wet; ‘PREP’ her all day and ensure that mentally, emotionally, psychologically and physically she’s ready for Sexual Satisfaction.

“Let her know you’re eager and can’t wait to take her that night”. As you ‘PREP’ her all day, call and tell her how hot she is…

Build her self esteem and confidence, tell her what you want her to do to you for example
Tell her you want her to, lap dance, twerk, for you
Tell her that, she drives you crazy when she gives you head
Tell her, how sexy she looks when she wears that red and black lace negligee

Never criticize or speak negative about her body, complement her and encourage her always .Never compare her body with other women’s. Some men make the BIG mistake of saying to their spouses “Baby I wish your body was like Beyoncé’s  though” Make her feel comfortable showing you her body.

“When he compliments me in bed, while having sex, it drives me mad and sends me to orgasm faster”
—Jannet, 35 years old

Men need to understand that; Sexual Satisfaction Skill and Passion for Sex are more important than Penis Size alone. In a recent research “Only approximately 7% of Sexually Satisfied women say penis size is critical to their pleasure.
The remaining 93% say they attain Sexual Satisfaction through other means

“Your Skill and Passion to Sexually please her are critical to a woman wanting more and asking for more from you”
– Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D

Sexual Passion; Talk about sex and what you would want to do to each other creates great sexual chemistry and releases incredible amounts of Sexual Satisfaction hormones before, during and after Sexual intercourse. Understand that the mind is the most important Sexual organ not the genitals

“As a man thinks so is he: Even for sex”. Men must Learn to express themselves and allow their woman to express herself also, in every way possible . Sexually Satisfied women know what they want, and a great number of them will express it.

“A woman comfortable with asking for what she wants is going to be orgasmic more of the time,”
– Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D

Share Sexual Intimate Moments don’t just get up after the act lie in; Talk, Touch, Kiss and Tease each other. Encourage her to be open with you, by increasing Sex talk in nonsexual situations. Tell each other what you enjoy. Openly Discuss your Sexual Fantasies.

Man be Aware and Learn from what she does. Even though she may not be as vocal as you want, look out for nonverbal cues, too.

“Some women do to their partners what they would like done to them. If she keeps touching you gently, in specific places all the time, for example, do the exact same thing to her.

“I tell him everything I like about Sex. That’s why we have great Sex!”
—Kemi, 32 years old

Ensure that attaining Sexual Satisfaction, Intimacy and Pleasure is the reason for having Sex all the time with your partner.

Although this may sound weird to men, it’s true: “Orgasm isn’t essential to every woman’s Sexual Satisfaction all the time”. 3 out of 4 women say that extended Sexual Satisfaction, Intimacy, being Gentle and Patient during Sex makes orgasm less necessary.

Men, learn to relax—Be Patient sometimes and put her at ease; This is more likely to make her attain Orgasm rather than PUMPING, RUSHING and/or FURIOUSLY RAMING her.

“I don’t love sex for the orgasms, I love sex because it brings us closer together.”
—Sade, 38 years old

If you want more on the Act of Sexual Satisfaction during Sex
If you are a woman: Text WOMAN to 33121
If you’re a man: Text MAN to 33121
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Shalom

The Catalyst, Lanre Olusola 

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The Catalyst, Lanre Olusola is also fondly called Coach and the Love Doctor.The Chief Catalyst at the Olusola Lanre Coaching Academy, Lanre is Africa’s Foremost  Life Coach,Psychologist and Emotions Therapist.  He provides coaching services for  individuals, celebrities,leaders and  top organizations around the globe.

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