The World Health Organization has predicted that:
“Depression will be the second leading killer disease and cause
of disability by 2020 and the No 1 killer disease and cause of disability by 2030”.
“Depression is a stronger risk factor for heart disease & mental illness than smoking, alcoholism & bad cholesterol”
What exactly is depression?
To some depression generally means feeling down, low, sometimes upset and sad,’ the blue syndrome’, but one may have these feelings without being classified as ‘clinically’ depressed.
These emotions are generally brief and can only slightly and temporarily affect normal life.
Clinical depression is a physical, emotional and spiritual state that is intense and can negatively affect the life of an individual, long term.
Depression is also different from sadness we naturally experience after loss, such as during bereavement.
Depression is very unhealthy; it often robs us of finding meaning in our lives and ultimately inhibits our personal growth, achievements, performance It can Ultimately lead to death.
So it is very important to understand what depression is and what it isn’t.
Depression is not a character flaw, neither is it a sign of indiscipline of personal weakness.
It is not just a “mood” that an individual can choose to get into and thus snap out of at will.
It is however critical to understand that depression is not permanent, you can completely recover from it.
A REAL LIFE STORY:
I’m Sure most of us have Heard the story of Motunrayo Ogbara.
May her soul Rest in Peace.
She suffered from acute depression & the break up with her boy friend amongst other things that added to her depression.
Contrary to what most know about depression: Motunrayo had a lot going for her and was always a bubbly extroverted lady, full of life.
She went to the UK a year before her death for her masters degree & started feeling very low & depressed, but no one thought it to be anything serious Aren’t we ALL Guilty of this?
We often think “Deal with it men”!!!!!
Based on her state of Mind she deferred her studies & moved back home.
On her return she showed the following symptoms of acute depression:
1) She cut off from her friends, deleted almost all her bb contacts & would not return anyone’s calls
2) She hardly left her house & room for days.
3) She felt detached & abandoned.
4) She craved attention but no one really had her time. Because most of her best friends are scattered round the globe & the few here had issues of their own.
5) She lived with her sister & unlike her, she soon started giving bad attitude, which caused a conflict and rift between them (She was silently crying out for help but due to certain barriers and filters no one heard her cry).
6) She didn’t want people to even know that she was back in the country & uncharacteristically kept to herself. Nobody thought anything of it.
On Saturday 16th July when her Cup became FULL, she lied that she was going to a friend’s house, but instead locked herself in her room & hung herself. Her body was only discovered on Monday the 18th of July.
I’m sure many are saying haba!!!!
Why should she take it that far????
Apart from breaking up with her boy friend, she had some family problems, she also just had an operation to remove a cyst and was just generally disturbed by a lot of things.
According to what I heard, she was also to start a new job with MTN on Monday the 18th July & her father had just recently bought her a brand new car.
Understand that depression is a silent killer & is very real in our society, even closer to you than you know.
Here are the Most common symptoms of depression.
1) Persistent sad or empty feeling
2) Difficulty sleeping (sleeping too much or too little)
3) Insomnia (early morning awakening)
4) Feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and worthlessness
5) Feelings of guilt
6) Loss of interest or the ability to enjoy oneself
7) Loss of energy or fatigue
8) Difficulty concentrating, thinking or making decisions
9) Changes in appetite (overeating or loss of appetite)
10) Observable mental and physical sluggishness
11) Persistent aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not ease even with treatment
12) Thoughts of death or suicide
As an Emotions Therapist, Health Coach and Psychologist, I am trained to help people deal with this Silent Killer.
From the work I have done in the last couple of years the truth is that a lot of people are walking around depressed.
Its not just about having a bad day, or a bad week; depression is a psychological condition that needs to be Quickly and Professionally dealt with.
That’s one the various reasons we are doing several programs from Emotional Intelligence to Conflict Resolution to Self Mastery and Personal Power etc.
Participants often Experience; a Re-awakening; An Activation of ALL the Power and Positive Energy that Lies Dormant within them; They will be Reconnected with your True Essence (Spirit and Soul).
Please If you see the signs identified above (and more) or suspect that you or someone close to you may be suffering from depression.
Make that Timely Decision NOW; Save a Life Today.
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SOME TREATMENTS FOR DEPRESSION
There are various types of treatment for depression, depending on the type of depression.
This provides a supportive environment to share and work through difficulties. Psychologists and psycho analysts can strategically and skillfully help change thinking patterns and behaviours that cause depression.
These techniques have been found to be much more effective than general counseling, and ultimately help reduce and control depression.
A change in the balance of chemicals in the brain can impact on our mood, a lack of some specific chemicals in our brain may sometimes be responsible for feeling, down, upset, fatigued, low, and sad. Antidepressant medications as prescribed by your physician can help restore the brain’s chemical balance to correct the imbalance that may be responsible for the biological symptoms of depression.
Some types of depression, particularly for the more severe ones, a combination of both psychological and medical treatment may be required.
Focus on developing your level of spirituality and serving God is also a way of managing depression.
Seeing God as your source, the author and finisher of your faith is critical. Depending on Him to for life’s sustenance and absolutely trusting Him is important.
Praying and reading the word of truth regularly creates blindness to the feelings that you hitherto would have been focusing on. For focus ultimately creates blindness.
Listening to motivational and inspiring music is also very important.
PRACTICAL THINGS YOU CAN DO TO MANAGE DEPRESSION:
The key problem areas and their respective solutions
1) Loss of interest.
Individuals that go through states of depression are usually unable to complete daily chores and also do not enjoy pleasurable activities. Positive experiences associated with a sense of achievement sometimes elude them, and this eventually affect the people around them.
Evidence has shown that increased levels of activity, and participating in pleasurable experiences can help reduce depressive symptoms.
Steps to increasing pleasurable activities and your sense of fulfillment and accomplishment.
a) Make a list of activities to be completed
b) Make a list of enjoyable activities
(Make sure you write down a lot of activities, also include marginally enjoyable activities)
c) Itemize your activity schedules for each day, this gives a sense of achievement when they are completed
d) Include the number of enjoyable activities and increase the amount of time allocated to these
e) Meditate on your accomplishments once the tasks have been completed. Especially meditating on the enjoyable aspects of your pleasurable activities
f) Constantly discuss with like minded people about activities they enjoy, identifying and reflecting on their positive experiences
g) Always stay focused on the positive aspect of your experiences, there’s always a positive twist to every experience, no matter how small, as you do this your experiences become more enjoyable.
2) Change your sleeping pattern.
Some symptoms of depression are over sleeping and or insomnia. Disruptive sleeping patterns can make you feel even worse. Very regular sleeping patterns are healthy and critical to recovering from depression.
So how can i establish healthy sleeping patterns?
a) Make sure you wake at the same time every morning
b) Avoid sleeping or taking naps during the day.
c) Reduce your tea and coffee intake considerably and do not drink tea or coffee after 4pm
d) When you are awake at night do not lie in bed trying to sleep for more than 30 minutes at a time
e) Get up, leave the room and engage in a relaxing activity, i.e reading, listening to music or exercise
f) Return to bed immediately you feel sleepy.
3) Worrying and negative thinking.
Worrying about future events and having negative thoughts. These thinking patterns are unhealthy can reduce a person’s ability to focus on recovery and this may increase their vulnerability to other unhealthy emotions and behaviours.
Changing negative thinking patterns and reducing worry is not as easy as it may seem.
It can only be done by using the principle of replacement This is an area where people often require the assistance of a coach, psychologist and professional.
Some tips for learning to control worry and reducing negative thinking.
a) Immediately you start worrying about a problem, distinctly write down the problems
b) Once this is done, systematically complete a problem solving exercise. Address each problem by examining all the positive and negative outcomes that may occur
c) Think through how realistic your negative thoughts are
d) Explore other thoughts and explanations for the circumstances
e) Keep a record of these more helpful ways of thinking
f) Avoid excessively discussing negative thoughts and encouraging negative feelings amongst others
g) Focus only on positive aspects of situations
h) Keep your mind busy and focused on tasks
i) Avoid unproductive thoughts
j) Think only positive thoughts
k) Make a list of your skills, talents, and achievements
l) Identify and appreciate the three most beautiful things in your environment
m) Remember the times when you were really happy
n) Set aside a “worry time” about 20 minutes only daily, do nothing else but think about your problems. Once the time allocated is over leave all your concerns behind and begin thinking only positive thoughts. If you’re tempted to think about your worries, remember that you have allocated time for this and immediately revert your thoughts only to positive ones
o) Keep a journal of your thoughts, identify the negative ones and correct them
Do not make any major life decisions while depressed.i.e quitting your job, getting married, ending a marriage e.t.c.
Other symptoms are irritability, agitation and fatigue.
As a normal part of depression the feelings of irritability, agitation and fatigue are often compounded by changes in sleeping patterns and negative thinking.
Tips on how to manage feelings of irritability and agitation.
a) Communication: Take the time to educate and advise key support people close to you about what you are going through. This helps them understand when you appear irritable or agitated and not because you are unhappy with them
b) Regularly thank them for their support and provide feedback on how they can best continue to support you
c) When you start feeling irritable or agitated, stop and ask yourself what is causing these emotions.
If it is a negative thought apply the steps highlighted above
If you feel fatigued, space out your activities for moments of
If you feel unmotivated, incorporate some enjoyable activities
into your daily routine and schedule
d) Practice regular relaxation activities
e) Seek professional help regularly.
To over come depression you Must Speak Positively and Believe what you say.
The reason is that negative words and beliefs are potent poisons that feed and foster depression.
Your words and beliefs influence your feelings and ultimately create your future experiences.
Negative words, beliefs, feelings create Negative experiences
Positive words, beliefs, feelings create Positive experiences
“The Power of life and death lies in the tongue”.
“You have what you say; Man experiences that which he regularly confesses”
“If only you can believe, all things are possible to him that believes”
“If you say to this mountain be thou removed and cast into the see, and you do not doubt in your heart, you will have tat which you say”
I have prepared this special Anti Depression – Happiness Affirmation.
I am Happy Today and Everyday
I Let Go.
I Release myself into Positivity.
I Recognize my Positive Patterns.
I have a Positive Mental Attitude.
I ONLY See, Think, Hear, Feel, and Say, that which I Desire.
I have only Powerful and Positive Thoughts.
I Confess only Positive and Empowering Words.
I have Powerful and Positive Feelings
I take Deliberate and Positive Action Always.
I Live In the NOW
I Love and appreciate my Life as it is NOW.
I Therefore Deliberately Create the future of my dreams NOW.
My Attention is Focused on Great and Positive things that I can do today
I am my Best Self
I am Responsible for my Happiness and Well-being.
I Recognize the direct connection between my Positive and Empowering thoughts, inner feelings, beliefs, and my Phenomenal Achievements.
I therefore Positively Contribute to Creating all circumstances, situations, and the events in my life”
I Treat myself with Understanding and Respect in Every Situation, and in Every Encounter with others.
I Choose to Love and Value myself.
I Choose to Allow myself to be Treated with Respect and Appreciation.
I Embrace my Life as it is NOW.
I Love myself exactly as I am Now”.
I am Constantly Improving and Growing.
I Live Purposefully
I Give my Life Sense and Meaning
I Know my True Purpose.
I Daily Live Purposefully
I Find Fulfillment in ALL that I do.
I do what I Love.
I Love what I do.
I am Happy Today and Everyday