We continue with our lessons on Relationship Principles from the Scissors. Today, I want us to look at relationship Principle No 4 – understanding your strengths and weaknesses as a couple or team.
Every pair of scissors has a sharp part and a dull part. The front or the face is sharp while the back is dull. In the same vein, every couple has areas of strengths and weaknesses. This is where we introduce the pillar of Knowledge and Understanding of each other. Your spouse is created with and over the years has developed many positive and powerful gifts, skills and qualities; likewise, several negatives.
The truth is that because you’re with them more than others you experience everything that others may not see. This works both ways as you also have your good and not so good traits. Nobody is perfect, we all have strengths and weaknesses.
But let us understand that EVERY strength can equally be a weakness, likewise every weakness a strength. If you both want each other and your marriage to accomplish its purpose; you must recognize and encourage the use of and develop the ‘sharp part’ of your spouse. You also must display your ‘sharp part’ (strengths) always.
You must both develop Maturity and Emotional Intelligence (Another Pillar) to know when and where a weakness is a strength and a strength a weakness and deploy or downplay them.
You need to know and speak each other’s love languages. You need to know each other’s values and core beliefs. You need to know…. More will be shared as I discuss the Pillar “Knowledge and Understanding”.
BEaWARE, Ignorance will destroy your marriage, relationship and family faster than anything else.
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You can also register to attend our Mind The Gap X program (relationship & marriage school for single, engaged, divorced, married people) in collaboration with Wale Adefarasin to get more detailed lectures and interactions on building and enhancing your relationship.
THEME 2: FAMILY AND FINANCES
Speakers: Wale Adefarasin, Lanre Olusola, Olumide Emmanuel, Funmi Oyetunji, Dr. Olaolu Mudashiru, Aishah Ahmad and Omilola Oshikoya; to be hosted by Ayo Owodunni.
Date : Saturday 4th June, 2016
Time: 8am -4pm
Venue: Guiding Light Assembly(GLA) House, Parkview Estate. Ikoyi. Lagos.
Fees: N10,000 for couples and N5,000 for individuals.
Coffee and Lunch will be served.
REGISTER: Email firstname.lastname@example.org with indication of interest and bank details will be sent to you. Ensure to send your full name, phone number, date of payment and amount paid to confirm payment and get pre-registered.
Registration closes 27th May, 2016
The Catalyst, Lanre Olusola