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MIND THE GAP : Practical Tips to Build Friendship in Your Relationship.

Still on our Mind The GAP relationship series on Friendship as one of the pillars to build strong and harmonious relationships on.

“Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend’s success.” ―Oscar Wilde

Here are some practical tips to build friendship in your relationship.
1) Know your spouse (partner) well-  Genuinely Learn about them to meet their specific needs
2) Practice “positive sentiment override.” – Commit to outdo your spouse with positive thoughts, words and deeds.
For example, make a list all of the things you admire and appreciate about your spouse; consciously look out for and notice your spouse doing good stuff and compliment them for doing these things.
3) Focus ONLY on, grow and expand your spouse’s strengths
4) Have friendly conversations; not conversation based on roles of wife, mother, cook, housekeeper; husband, father, provider, paymaster etc and the responsibilities of these roles.
5) Make and honor promises to each other
6) Constantly review your Spouse’s life and focus on the interesting parts
7) know your differences and turn them into blessings of completeness

Rate yourself in each of these 7 components above on a scale of 0 – 10 (0 being very poor and 10 being excellent). Then make a commitment to improve your scores.

“A strong friendship doesn’t need daily conversation or being together. As long as the relationship lives in the heart, true friends never part.”—Anonymous

More practical tips tomorrow, look out for them. What are your thoughts on our Mind The Gap series so far? I’d  love to read from you in the comment section and please share some of your own practical tips with me.

Don’t forget to register to attend our Mind The Gap X – Family and Finances master class on the 4th of June, 2016. Here, we will look at relationships, family and finances from a holistic point of view.


Speakers: Wale Adefarasin, Olumide Emmanuel, Funmi Oyetunji, Dr. Olaolu Mudasiru, Aishah Ahmad , Omilola Oshikoya and I will be facilitating various sessions.
Time: 8am -5pm
Venue: Guiding Light Assembly(GLA) House, Parkview Estate. Ikoyi. Lagos.
Fees: N10,000 for couples and N5,000 for individuals. Coffee and Lunch will be served.
Step 1: Pay to Acct: Olusola Lanre Coaching Academy 1013172548
Zenith Bank
Step 2: Email us after payment at mindthegapxx@gmail.com with full name, date of payment and amount paid for confirmation and pre-registration.

The Catalyst, Lanre Olusola 

COACHING SOCIAL MEDIA WEEK: Four Colors Of People On Your Phone Contact List;

Written By: Enahoro Okhae


You can’t know everything and you can’t have everything, sorry; it’s a fact of life; you will always need to LEVERAGE on other people because MAN is limited; limited to time, money, capacity and several other kinds of resources. One of the most important places you go to in the time of need is your Phone Contact List. Telephone is the fastest medium of communication and in it we save names and numbers of people. Ever wondered why you have to save someone’s number?

The answer is simple; it’s simply to be able to relate with them continuously. Logically, when you RELATE with them, you build a RELATIONSHIP and relationship as you know is the single most important resources anyone can have. From that phone you can immediately get out of debt, get out of danger, get a highly needed equipment and so on by just placing a call; sometimes I wonder how we survived a life without mobile phone. Now your ability to Leverage on someone in the time of need from that phone will be determined by the color of that contact. The contacts on your phone are divided into four different colors namely; Red, Blue, Green and Black Contacts. More info


Written By Lanre Olusola 

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Nobody can achieve anything all by themselves

No man is an island

We need relationships to ‘BeAllWeWereBornToBe’

From my works over the years, I have come to realize that relationships fail and marriages break up not because of love lost but because couples do not understand each other’s needs; don’t know how to meet these needs and/or can’t be bothered to meet each other’s needs

This morning I want to speak to the women about how to meet the needs of their men and in the evening I will speak to the men about how to meet the needs of their women More info