THE HYPE OF LOVE

Gd Morn,

If GOD is LOVE then What isn’t Love ?

Do we Really Know what True Love is?

Do we know what is Expected of us when asked to Love God, Ourselves and Our Neighbour?

Do we Truly Understand this Contraption, Concept and Construct Called LOVE?

With ALL the Pain, Fear, Anxiety, Wars, Separations, Divorce, Evils in Society Today are we Sure We Really know what Love is ??

WHAT IS LOVE ?????

Especially in Relationships What is this thing called LOVE?

Have we Ever Experienced or Given it ?

From my research EVERY relationship has a cycle.

In the beginning, two people decide to freely fall into the relationship – A phenomenon we call falling in love.

They then daily anticipate and eagely look forward to each other’s call, text, email, visit etc.

That free fall into the relationship – as a first step wasn’t that hard.  In fact, it felt completely natural and spontaneous…hmmmmmm.

You didn’t have to DO anything.  That’s why it’s called ‘falling’ in love… Because it was something that just happening TO YOU.

At this stage people say things like, ‘I was swept off my feet.’

Just think about the imagery of that expression.

It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

This concept of supposedly falling-in love sounds too easy.

It sounds like a very passive and spontaneous experience.

After this cycle having proceeded rapidly to wanting, to touching, feeling and exploring each other.

After a few months for some or years for others; Into the relationship or marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of this love fades.

The scales seem to drop from each party’s eyes, without deeply understanding, knowing, accepting each other’s idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit). 

The next natural cycle of EVERY relationship is pointing fingers, quarrels, fights, complaints, wars, break ups, separations and divorce.

Slowly but surely:

Phone calls become a bother (if they come at all)
Touch is not always welcome (when it happens)

Your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms at this stage vary from relationship to relationship.

However if you take time to reflect and think about your relationship and marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you supposedly fell- in love (fell into the relationship) and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking;

‘Did I marry the right person?
Did I get into the Right Relationship?
Did I ever love this person?
Did I even REALLY know what Love was? Do I KNOW what Love is ?

And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of this kind of love construct. I.e as you perceived you once had it, you may find that sooner than later you may begin to desire that experience with someone new.

What is this thing????

Is it Really LOVE ???

At this stage many relationships pack up and marriages breakdown.

Is it mainly due to Varied levels of ignorance, immaturity, impatience or selfishness.

Or is it PURE Lack of Knowledge and Insight about LOVE.

What we thought was LOVE may not have been Love Afterall…….

So again….What is LOVE?

What is the Purpose of LOVE?

Many quickly move into the Next Cycle of Hate…..
Spouses begin to blame the other party for their unhappiness and begin to seek justification for looking outside their marriage for Self Preservation.

They attempt to use Extramarital affairs to cover the void they feel. These attempts at Self Preservation Manifest in varied forms.

Infidelity is now Fully Blown.

So Where was the so called LOVE?

Or is it really our LOVE search that lands us Here?

Many others Refocus their energies…..They turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances to FILL their Void and emptiness Trying to DULL their Pain.

Wow could this be the Essence or Result of Love ?

No matter what you Try or do you soon realise that your temporary focus or perceived solution does NOT lie outside your relationship or marriage…. BUT Simply Within You.

You begin to Realise that Starting that cycle of falling-into the relationship a phenomenom we call falling in love with someone else”ONLY gives us “TEMPORARY” Gratification or relief.
But thereafter the other cycles rapidly kick in and then you want out and seek the other next fix.

You’d find your self after many such attempts back in the same situation years later “WORSE OF”.

Is there really a Mr Right or a Mrs Right you keep asking?

IS THE SECRET TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE ACTUALLY LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST BEING WHOLE and then LEARN TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND as you COMMIT to GIVING rather than TAKING ???

Being of Service Rather than Demanding ???

LOVE from what we now know is definitely not a passive or spontaneous experience.

It NEVER just happens to you?

You SURELY can’t ‘FALL INTO’ True LOVE.
You ‘CREATE’ and ‘GIVE’ True LOVE day in and day out.

Is this the reason for the expression ‘LABOUR of LOVE’

Do we presuppose that LOVE is Hard work?

Have we been deceived over the years by fiction and fairy tales to believe that love is a that Quizzy Crazy Feeling?

That Chemical or Hormonal Unstable Impulse?

WOW !!!!

Think Again FOLKS !!!!

Wake up from your Deep Slumber…..

Shine your eyes….
…..It Seems that GENUINE and TRUE LOVE Requires Hard and Intelligent Work…
….It Needs Commitment and Time. Dedicated Effort and Patience to Foster.

LOVE needs Wisdom and Energy to Build it up and GROW…..

LOVE is Life…..
LOVE Lives….
LOVE CONSUMES ALL in its way…..
LOVE NEVER Dies….

Don’t get your knickers in a twist.

Get your head out of the clouds.

This thing called LOVE is Real…..
Although it is Tripartite in Nature….Having Spiritual, Emotional and Physical Expressions it is NOT a mystery.

Just as there are Spiritual, Universal and Physical Laws that Govern the Universe.

There are Specific Keys that you ‘must’ have.

There are Practical Steps you ‘must’ take.

There are Specific Things you ‘must’ not do.

In Conclusion LOVE is more of a ‘Decision’…Than it is a feeling.

‘God determines who walks into your life, you determine who you keep or let go of’

‘Likewise you ultimately determine your life experiences’.

IF God is Love and we are Created in
His Image and after his Likeness.

Then We Need to go Back to Basics in Godliness…

What Image and Likeness of God do We Have, See and Experience Daily ?

What Image and Likeness of Ourselves do We Give People Daily ?

IS LOVE More of a Perpetual Question or Quest for Godliness ?

So If GOD is LOVE….. Can We BE LOVE Also ????

Begin your LOVE Journey by TRULY
Loving YOURSELF TODAY……..Then Tomorrow and then Begin Again. You DESERVE Your own Love at Least……….This is what Gives others the Permission to Love you……

What you don’t Have you Certainly can’t Give….

What you don’t Deserve you Certainly can’t Attract and Receive….

May:

GOD be in my head and in my Understanding

GOD be in my eyes and in my looking

GOD be in my mouth and in my speaking

GOD be on my lips and in my smiling

God be in my nose and in my perceiving

God be in my ears and in my listening

God be in my head and in my thinking

God be in my shoulders and in my bearing

God be in my back and in my supporting

God be in my bones and in my strengthening

God be in my arms and in my lifting

God be in my hands and in my giving

God be in my legs and in my visiting

God be in my guts and in my feeling

God be in my bowels and in my forgiving

God be in my skin and in my sensing

God be in my lungs and in my breathing

God be in my blood and in my living

God be in my heart and in my loving

Just as God is Love so am I ….

Shalom

“The Catalyst”